Tuesday, February 19, 2013

Every Ending is Someone Else's New Beginning

The Queen's Final Tea with the outgoing 2012 crew...
This past weekend I traveled to Portsmouth for a bittersweet but happy moment...I went to the VA State East Coast USA finals to crown my successor as my reign is over and another young lady's about to begin. I had planned to go down for the day to help out and crown when I received a call the night before that a judge had gotten ill with the flu and asking if I wouldn't mind filling in to judge the pageant?

Of course I said yes, knowing how much hard work these ladies put into winning these events and it was a wonderful pageant. We saw gorgeous girls from as young as 5 months up to age 22...I'll admit I was a *little* disappointed that there weren't any "over 40" gals like myself this time around but the quality of the competition was fabulous nonetheless! Shows like Toddlers & Tiaras really don't do justice to the fantastic systems like ECUSA that encourage every girl to be their best and reward BOTH participation AND success onstage. I think you need both to help the contestants grow...participation awards reward the courage it takes just to even get on stage for some newer contestants, and the higher titles and crowns encourage ongoing improvement. It really is a win-win situation for those competing.

Here are a few photos, one was with Mr. Tim our emcee (The Voice of Pageants!) who had been helping me with tips to improve my performance as a pageant & event hostess and the other was a group shot where one of the moms caught me trying to get everyone organized for the group shot! Think of "cat herding" with the little ones and the bright lights and you get the picture LOL!

Congrats to all the winners this weekend and esp to Summer Fant, who I crowned as my successor for the Pro Supreme title for Virginia! I hope she has a wonderful year!
With Mr. Tim Whitmer, the "Voice of Pageants" after a long day working together!

Catching our last little lady before she runs off for the final photo! We managed to get a great group shot though :) 

Friday, February 8, 2013

2013 Breast Cancer Lobby Day at the Capitol


Yesterday I had the honor of attending the annual Breast Cancer Lobby day at the Capitol with the Virginia Breast Cancer Foundation as an advocate and spokesperson. What an interesting experience! We met up at 9am to discuss the pending vote on Medicaid Expansion and the Every Woman's Life initiatives and then broke off into small groups to go one-on-one with various delegates of the House and Senate to talk about the upcoming vote and our position in general. Here I am with two of my friends while we were waiting to be recognized during the House meeting:

With Dana & Lynda, from the Fall BraZaar  team

This wasn't a "glamorous" event, we had work to do. Luckily my group got the pleasure of meeting with the Speaker of the House Delegate Howell who it turns out has a wife who is also a breast cancer survivor and a very passionate supporter of programs to help women in similar situations. It was absolutely humbling to be able to share my own story about the gap in our healthcare and insurance that I faced 12 years ago and to in turn hear from my elected representative the things he's done and plans to do to help prevent just that sort of thing from happening in the future. One thing I learned is we've come a LONG way just in 10 years in caring for the newly diagnosed and reaching lower-income woman...but the other side of the coin is that death rates aren't declining nearly as fast.

To relate, my own story is that I was a divorced single mom, only 29, when a suspicious lump that I'd been wondering about began to get larger. My fiance (now husband) at the time encouraged me to go get checked out. I did but my insurance would not pay for a definitive mammogram, citing I wasn't 40 yet and the odds of it being anything other than fibrocycstic were slim. This mind you with a mother who has had a mastectomy and a great-aunt who died from breast cancer.

I put off my exam for almost 3 months, I didn't have $800 out of pocket. Finally at my fiance's insistance I put it on a credit card and sure enough, there was a tumor. Well at that point the insurance decided they might pay something after a needle biopsy confirmed findings. I had an excision 2 weeks later but by this time what started as DCIS was progressing towards Stage I. I had a tumor the size of a "golf ball" per the surgeon, one very close to my lymph nodes under my arm.

I was lucky. They caught it in time. But how many women in similar circumstances HAVE a credit card to put $800 on? Why should they have to? And more importantly, how many may have died from metastatic cancer who had they been able to afford the diagnostic screening caught it in time instead? I "did everything right" and did my self-exams and yet the system initially failed me.

That is unacceptable, to let poorer women die in America, waiting for care that could save them.

It was because of this I decided to attend this event and I have worked with various organizations to further not only awareness but research into this deadly disease. The expansion of the Medicaid Act in Virginia if delayed will cost our state $5 million dollars a DAY in lost Federal funds, something that could literally spell the difference between staying open and closing hospital doors in rural counties. Sad to say, the more remote areas like Tazewell, Rappahannock, Mecklenburg take the hit much more than even those in inner-city Richmond and the surrounding areas.

We got to speak with five delegates before being recognized on the House floor by Delegate McQuinn, also a survivor herself. Five more voices hopefully for those who don't have one right now until a cure is found. To learn more, visit this wonderful organization at www.vcbf.org 


Friday, February 1, 2013

Go Red For Women today...Feb 1st!



Today, Feb 1st is the annual National Wear Red Day for the American Heart Association. Great timing, not only for Valentine's Day (aren't we all trying to find that one red outfit to wear 2/14?) but also because winter tends to encourage being indoors and many people put on a little extra "winter weight" from the colder, longer days. Obesity and heart disease are linked and while genetic factors can't be prevented, lifestyle ones can be.

For my part, I am fortunate that a few years back I bought a small indoor treadmill at Costco for a few hundred dollars in lieu of a gym membership that year and it has paid forward many, many times over! Anytime it's too cold/wet/dark/boring/crowded to go to a gym or hit the court I have no excuse not to plop myself and my tennis shoes on the treadmill downstairs where I can watch TV while working out. Actually our basement/family room is set up in such a way if all four of us are home, ONE of us HAS to be on the treadmill to watch TV....another good way to encourage fitness, even if a little drastic! But it definitely helps, I'm 41 years old with a bodyfat % of 19 and my blood pressure is 90/65...not too bad for a mom of two college students! : )

Here's my red outfit I'm wearing today...red is not the most flattering color on me (I own about 100 pink and royal blue things though!) but it's for a good cause. Mind you this is an amateur "selfie", my daughter is a little more skilled at this talent:


I do water the plant in the window BTW...she's been alive since June, not too bad for me! It's wild how they grow in the direction of the sun no matter where you put them. Til next time...

Thursday, January 31, 2013

Breast Cancer Lobby Day Feb 7th!


Excited and a little nervous, I'll be joining several other ladies at the VBCF's Lobby on the Hill day Feb 7th with my friend Jennifer Welborn (she is the reigning National Ms.) to meet with legislators and others about several issues concerning health care and breast cancer testing/fundraising etc.

If you'd like to join us there's still room for volunteers to just come out and support the group and a lunch meeting will be afterwards at Extra Billy's, this is on a Thursday. Here's the link:

www.vbcf.org 

I'll post photos as soon as I can! Should be a fun and informative event :)

Monday, January 28, 2013

Back Again!

Wow, I had no idea it's been almost 2 years since my last blog post! A LOT has happened since then. Let's see:
  • Both my children are now attending college full time
  • My husband was promoted to management with UPS, so I am now Household CEO (He says it's a promotion for me too....but some days the laundry says differently!) 
  • I completed my CPCU graduate program (finally, after 4 years!)
  • We got two new kittens in exchange for the two kids leaving for college. They don't eat as much and the TV doesn't get left on. Well, ok, most nights...

I tied for the win at Mrs NC United States not long after my last post, winning the Interview award as well. It was a very empowering experience to do so well amongst a field of over two dozen ladies, 6 of whom were also former state or national winners in other systems like myself. That gave me the courage to continue my journey in pageants and I have gone on to win my first Supreme title in East Coast USA (Pro at that!) here in Virginia as well as winning the Queens Of Hope pageant, Delmarva's Ambassador and probably my favorite title to date, Royal Ambassador for Pink Queens For Life.

Here's the link to the article in the news and a photo with my sister queens: http://www.thefranklinnewspost.com/article.cfm?ID=22745



My involvement with Pink Queens for Life has made me realize that with a crown, there are indeed a LOT of doors that can open for service with a title. I initially entered just for fun and also because as a breast cancer survivor myself, I thought it was really neat that they recognized that sort of contestant as a category all its own. I never really expected to WIN...that was definitely an added bonus!

If I can begin the journey to reach out to others about the importance of this cause with just a local title like this, I can only imagine what doors would open with a state or even national crown...

Since winning Pink Queens, I have focused my efforts on working with other organizations that support those suffering from cancer, whether children at Roanoke Memorial or adults dealing with the after effects of a breast cancer diagnosis. Not only is my mother a survivor as well, but one of my best friends had to have a double mastectomy with reconstruction...a mother of teenagers like myself.

In watching them and realizing what I've felt and dealt with, I have found that perhaps I can share my ups and downs with others facing this disease after diagnosis and have hope that there can be light on the other side of that dark tunnel. I've been down it and I know how it feels to be terrified you're going to leave your children behind. So my "platform", as it were, is about as personal as it can get. And I hope to share some of that with those who read my blog over the next months as I work with others to find that sunshine after the storm that so many of us need. Stay tuned!


Monday, May 16, 2011

New Adventures

Well my work with animal rescue has led to new adventures; I was chosen to compete in the Mrs. NC United States pageant in June where I will be representing my family's area of Southeastern NC. When I told my grandma she was thrilled...the Davidson paper even did a story on it which was quite fun since they had just done one on her reaching her 95th birthday! She is also a published author and still plays piano nearly every Sunday for other residents for Sunday School. She's what I aspire to be when I "grow up" someday!

Here is my photo for the Davidson paper!

Tuesday, February 15, 2011

Some bits and pieces today!

Some new little updates to share today. While suffering home today with strep throat, I realized there *was* a silver lining to this dark cloud...I have time to be on the internet and update my blog again finally!

First is wonderful news, the Titanic necklace sold for almost $400 on eBay! This allowed us to raise additional funds for Rikki's Refuge as well as help me start saving up for a new pageant competition wardrobe. (Not to mention that my winning bidder had a GREAT present just in time for Valentine's Day for his wife!!)

It doesn't seem like it's been a year, but here it is! I will be crowning at the Virginia East Coast pageant this weekend...the morning after I'll be attending Mrs NC America to cheer on several of my friends competing this time. I hope my successor will have the same luck in 2011 as I did last year at nationals.

Lastly, not many people know this, but many years ago, I was turned into a My Little Pony!

It's a long story, but there was an "Autumn Skye" pony released in Hasbro's G3 collection of My Little Ponies. She has my hair and eye color and even "autumn leaves" in her cutie mark just like the ones I use in my signature! My daughter, who was 8 at the time and a VERY avid MLP collector, found out about this from Hasbro and we received a box of "Autumn Skye" ponies soon after! I come in a 2 pack with "Minty" pony! My bio is as follows:

"Autumn Skye just loves playing outdoors. She can tell you about every singe tree, flower, and rock in Ponyville! This busy pony brings a breath of fresh air to everything she does! Go for a nature walk with Minty and Star Swirl.
Press pretty flowers in a book.
Have a picnic lunch at the Rainbowberry Fountain""

Well at least I am a BUSY pony! *LOL* I have 2 of these displayed in my home and yes, my mother insisted on owning the pony version of her daughter so she has one as well. It's quite a conversation starter, I can tell you.

I'm posting my photo vs the Pony...can you tell the difference? Sort of like a "BEFORE":

 

And the "AFTER"!....